What’s ailing you?

The following post is for SageMom whose son will be having surgery on his spine.

Spinal fusion
Spinal fusion is surgery to join together two bones (vertebrae) in the spine. Fusing permanently joins two bones together so there is no longer movement between them. Spinal fusion is usually done along with other surgical procedures of the spine.

Alternative Names
Vertebral interbody fusion; Posterior spinal fusion; Arthrodesis; Anterior spinal fusion; Spine surgery – spinal fusion

You will be asleep and feel no pain (general anesthesia).

Your surgeon has several choices about where to make the incision (cut).


The following video shows the actual operation so you can use your own judgement if you wish to view it. I watched the video and the patient appears to have quite severe scoliosis.

Posterior Spinal Fusion-Video

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89 Responses to What’s ailing you?

  1. Amber from Maryland says:

    Hi Snoopy

    I don’t know anything abot spine surgery but I was very happy to see your new post. It reassured me that we all as a group can move on with our lives after the Casey trial. This is good. Life is good. Now I am going to go downstairs and fix a late lunch.

    I hope that things go well for Sage Mom and her son.

  2. SageMom says:

    Today I woke up, as promised, and I smiled. I just knew it was going to be a good day. I was on a mission to find a match for my son and his blood type. I came home excited at the promise that it just might be me and I can once again be a part of his getting better. I came home after a brief hospital stop, saw my son off to work and then thought that a good old fashioned lawn mowing with my push mower was in order. There is nothing like a day of lawn mowing to either set your mind straight or wear you out just enough to not think of surgery or Casey Anthony.
    I just walked into my home, sat down and decided to check up on all of my friends here at the fair. WHAT A GREAT GIFT YOU JUST GAVE ME!!! I thankyou from the bottom of my heart. The video makes me feel much calmer and I know that he is in safe hands. My son is 20 now but every time we walk into the hospital the sights, sounds and smells bring back the memories of his 3 and a half month stay. What an awesome, strong son I have and how lucky I am! What a lucky lady I am to have happened upon this site! It sure makes things easier when I let go of fear and learn from so many who are there for us. Can you tell me J? Have you had or do you know someone who has had spinal fusion and how did they fair after surgery? My son’s main curve out of three curvatures, was at 62 degrees. The kyphosis looks terribly uncomfortable for him and he has so many back pain complaints. He works hard and wants to learn a trade but it sure isn’t easy for him right now. Although, he never complains. Our decision to go ahead with this surgery came when our family Dr. said he would be disabled by 35 if we didn’t make a move. I know it is the right thing but I must say, I worry non stop that I should leave things be. I try so hard not to but I do. He had open heart surgery along with two other surgeries, as an infant. He was beautiful then and what a huge mountain he had to climb. The thing is, I wish I could just do this one for him. He’s strong, and I am sure he will come through this in flying colors but if we could only trade places with them.
    Again, thankyou for this…..I wish you could see my smile…….it runs from ear to ear this morning!!! And to all of you for the positivity…..I’m sending some love your way. Love is such a powerful thing isn’t it????? ♥♥

  3. SageMom says:

    Ok, I have to say one more thing! My son’s back xrays and MRI look almost exact to the xray of this young person. That isn’t really what I wanted to share J. I wanted to share just how excited I am for his xray to look like the after picture!!! I am excited for him! Can you imagine the changes in his life? He is going to be a perfect man when this is over. He is one year a way from being straight as an arrow! I am nervous. I can’t deny that. But I am also anxious to see him get better and move on and become a grown man and maybe even be a Dad some day!!!! I am going to watch that surgery again. Somehow, it makes me feel calmer and like I am loading up with knowledge. It will go off without a hitch! I will be taking him to the surgeons on Friday for xrays, ekg and last minute questions. I have written down so many but if you know of someone or have had the surgery I would surely welcome any and all talk about every aspect. Hugs to you on this fine day!!!

  4. Sage Mom, I spent 8 months in the hospital when I contracted polio at age 14. During that time I had contact with many patients who underwent different orthopedic surgeries. This was several years ago and there has been so much advancement in medical procedures since then. I noticed in the video that they now use metal bars and screws to bring the spine into alignment. It is amazing what the specalists can do. Years ago, they used a piece of shin bone of the patient and fused it to the spine.

    With any surgery, be it the extraction of a wisdom tooth or a heart bypass, there is always a risk when an anaesthetic is administered, but the risks are low. The doctors must inform you of any potential risks before you or your son signs the consent form. One good thing, your son is still young and God willing his recovery time will be at a minimum due to his youth.

  5. Karen C. says:

    Sage Mom- great good luck to you and your son, and may the good docs have ultra-super-powers that morning and your boy an easy recovery.

  6. Newbie says:

    Sagemom, this link is an animated surgery. Don’t know if your doctor uses this method but it gives an idea of the basics. I found this next to what Jon provided. Actually, there are quite a few youtube videos and comments concerning this surgery.
    Kinda strange is that we could pop in, have a surgery and be fine yet when it is our child, it is really tough going !
    I may have missed this but about when is your son’s surgery?

    Spinal Fusion Animation-Video

  7. SageMom says:

    Yes, the advancement in medical procedures, even in the last 20 years, has moved leaps and bounds! Harrison rods were used in spinal procedures but I have since learned they have very intricate series of rods and screws and I am sure after Friday I will have you a great report on the procedure map for my son. I believe the words of paralysis were the biggest thing mentioned so far that scare the living daylights out of me. Being Mom, I always told him I thought he was great just the way he was. Now that he is 20, I don’t always get to make the decision and this time he decided he wanted to go ahead with the surgery. He seems so confident it is making it that much easier to be his Mom and to get through it. His cardiologists gave us a promise that they would be there by his side too. That makes me rest a little easier also. He has two regurgitations of the mitral and tricuspid valves also. They assured us that it is not to worry so much about but it sure feels nice to know they will be there for him and for us. I am amazed at the advances in the medical field. Most amazing to me right now is stem cell research. They could quite possibly end type 2 diabetes given the chance. We could fix Dave’s problem and make him as good as new couldn’t we? Wouldn’t that just be the berries? I continue to read and to read on many medical issues. Some so confusing but none the less, such a positive thing for so many. As for my son……….My Father, his grandfather, would be soooo proud!
    Karen C., Thankyou Thankyou! We appreciate the luck but I appreciate this site even more than that. All of you!!
    My sister’s husband also had polio and was in the chamber for quite some time. He has many difficulties but also made it through the storm. I know you are a strong lady and a survivor! Energy comes out from your posts. Makes me want to be strong and keep trudging on with my son until we reach victory!!!! I’m glad to have met you.

  8. SageMom says:

    Newbie, Thankyou! My son’s surgery is August the 11th. We are now in the throws of appointments that stretch right through July into the August month. It is fast approaching and I sure can say that when it comes to our children..it’s tough to be strong. He really is an amazing being to me. When I think back about his life and how lightly he takes life changing things such as this, I feel so lucky. I also have to say that there are some amazingly strong, intelligent people who visit this site. The book “The Five People You Meet in Heaven”. I am going to change it to the PEOPLE I meet in Heaven and on Earth. We are a widespread group of human beings. I don’t know if our path’s will cross and we shall ever come face to face here on earth but I sure do know that I will look forward to meeting you all in my Heaven. And if I ever get the opportunity to meet with my mainstreamfairers? I shall bring my son along! You will all love him so very much!!!♥♥

  9. Frankie says:

    Sage Mom,
    Thank you for sharing your son’s story. All of our friends on this and Dave’s blog where such a wonderful support to me when my husband was going through several cancer surgeries. It was heart warming to get so many kind words.
    Last week I was diagnosed with Spondylolisthesis. I have arthritis of the upper and lower spine plus various other joints in my body. It is a possibility that some day I may require the same surgery as your son.
    About 15 years ago I had back surgery for a herniated disc. It went well and it gave me several pain free years. I believe that I recovered so well because I did exactly what the doctor told me to do. Bed rest, not over doing anything, not standing or sitting too long. Recovery was 6 to 8 weeks but well worth doing what I was told.
    I have a good friend whose daughter had an illness that slowed her growth and caused her spine to curve very severely. She had several surgeries. The last one was to put a steel rod down her whole spine. Today, many years later she is still as straight as a die and doing very well. Medicine has come a long way since her surgery which is a bonus for your son.
    Your son is young and has your loving support so he will come through his surgery with flying colours.
    I hope you keep us posted on his progress. I wish the best for you and your son.

  10. Christine says:

    As one who experienced Spinal Surgery in it’s infancy…..1953….to be exact…..and sustained
    2 spinal fusions……I can tell you the doctors then thought it was all due to polio and the weakness settled in the spinal area. My hospitalization in 1953 was approx. 8 months in a full body cast
    of cemet……from head to the knees. After the surgery and I was off to a convalescent home
    (because my mom worked ) I returned to Columbia Presbyterian Hosp in NYC…..and the full
    cast was removed and I was then placed in a ‘walking cast’……from under the chin to the hips.
    I then was taught to walk again…..(something I did on my own…because I used to amble off
    on a gurney…..with toes touching the floor….and manuvering on my own) ….that all was back
    when I was 13 years old. I was also told at that time….that arthritis would eventually come to my at some point. Also the bone they filled in between the vertebrae would eventually disintergrate and I would be faced with more problems…..

    Well I am now still going strong, no back problems……and the bone from the bone back is still
    doing the job for me.

    I thank the surgeon who performed my double spinal fusions……Dr. VonLackum…..and
    God bless his hands……for what he has done for me.

    Today once the surgery is over…..the patient is usually up and walking so quickly one’s head would spin…….

    I Pray to God your son’s surgery will be a huge success…..which I know it will be.
    God bless you and your family and prayers will be sent heaven-ward for your son on
    August 11th,
    He will do just fine……I know that to be a fact.

    PS…..I AM ACTIVE IN THE USCG AUXILIARY……conducting search and rescues and
    patroling the waterways on safety patrols.
    I have 2 wonderful daughters……though my husband is now deceased…..and each day
    I thank God…..for letting me experience the sun rising in the East and setting in the West.

    Thank you for letting me to post here……

  11. SageMom says:

    Thankyou for your kind words and support! My son is home from work now and he sits here in amazement! He said, “How cool is this Mom!” They wrote an article just for me!” Haha!!! I am so happy and so is he!!!! The steel rod placed down this young lady’s spine is called a Harrison rod. Yes, advancements seem to have been made at a rapid speed! I am fortunate for that although it seems this young lady did quite fine in her surgeries and for that I am ever so encouraged and grateful. I am sorry to hear of your diagnosis but I can tell you from all of this help, it seems there is great progress that has been made for you and my son. Isn’t this the best of news?
    I have just found that my blood type does not match my sons. However, my husbands does!!! This is continuing to be a fine day.
    The animated video was equally as informative. It sure does help to see all of this beforehand. What did we do without the internet?

  12. Newbie says:

    Sagemom, when reading, “I don’t know if our paths will cross and we shall ever come face to face….” I had to laugh. My mind just starting running. Can you imagine Jon, Nan, Vicky and the rest of us altogether….WHOA….it will have to be heaven as we’d all be thrown out of wherever….of course that would be due to Jon Nan and Vicky….lol.

    If I ever met you, I would run like hell in the opposite direction. BTW, that would be really something as I have not walked, except with the aid cruthes, since 1953 let alone run. Where we all end up, we will have to taKe our own barbeque sauce. Maybe we can roast wienies on the devil’s pitch fork~J

  13. Newbie says:

    I better add Red to that Jon Nan and Vicky…lol.

  14. Christine, when I started to read your comments, I thought, what a small world. You described a girl I met in a hospital but in Canada. She had the spinal fusion and was in a plaster paris full body cast. It went down to her knee on one leg and down to the ankle on the leg where they took the bone from her shin. There was an opening for her to use a bedpan. The cast even came down over her shoulders. It was meant to keep the spine perfectly immobile while the spine healed. After a few months, they cut some of the cast off ( with a little round saw) and she was in a walking cast. I remember her name was Ann Marie. This took place in 1953-54. I believe she spent around 9 months total in the polio hospital.

  15. SageMom says:

    Thankyou ever so much for sharing this story! 2 spinal fusions! Two curvatures in your spine? And polio also? Polio was surely an evil monster! Very informative this article is and very informative and encouraging to find out how well things went for you! Yes, they have most assuredly come a long way on the surgery too! When my son had his open heart surgery, he was just an infant. It turned out to be quite the ordeal. He had contracted something called necrotizing enturocolitis. I think it was a multitude of things that caused him to have to fight and fight and fight. Not just his heart defects. I was told that in the first trimester, your babies heart and spine form. They tell me that he not only had the heart defect at birth but the scoliosis was there too. It did not take a terrible turn until he was 15 years old. It was progressing so rapidly, I could honestly say that it seemed as if it was overnight. I think alot of his problem now stems from his spine twisting also. It causes the rib cage to press in on the internal organs. Never a good thing.
    After reading here, I have great faith that my son has made a good decision and that things are looking up for him.I am taking your knowledge as fact and I thankyou from the bottom of my heart for posting today. HUGS TO EVERYONE!!!!

  16. Newbie says:

    Christina, eight months in a full body cast !!!!!! I feel like I should say I am so sorry yet it is somewhat late for that. You had a tough go with all of it. God love you. So glad it all came out okay. Of course your stamina is one of the reasons it did.

  17. SageMom says:

    Newbie! I look forward to a party like that one! Even if Jon, Nan, Red and Vicky get us all thrown out! hah! There must be some kind of halfway house we can go to right????♥♥

  18. SageMom says:

    Jonathon? Crutches since 1953? The polio?
    I wish I could give you wings to fly! I would you know! I surely would.

  19. SageMom says:

    Hey wait Newbie! I got it.I think that halfway house I speak of could quite possibly be pergatory?? Perhaps we shall all get it out of our systems there! lol

  20. Newbie says:

    Sagemom, yesterday and today that is where I thought we were !

  21. SageMom says:

    I am sitting here thinking of your husband and his cancer also. I am hoping the surgeries went well and that your life is good.

  22. SageMom says:

    Yes, let’s stick with today and tomorrow…….Forget about yesterday! And pergatory can definitely wait! Let us lift our cups right here at Mainstreamfair! A toast!!! To the finest of people!

  23. Newbie says:

    I’ll drink to that…..and now I’m off to do what I started this morning…..lol.

  24. nan11 says:

    SageMom: I don’t know much about spinal columns, and my computer is throwing a hissy fit over something and I can’t watch any youtube videos for some reason. {sigh}

    I did have occasion to meet a young chap a few years back who had spent many years of his life going through surgeries for ‘spina bifida’, IIRC.

    Even though all the different surgery and recovery periods had taken up most of his childhood and teenage years, he had a nice straight posture.

    I was really surprised when he shared some of what he had gone through.

    At one point he pulled up his t-shirt to show me his scar. 😆

    Seriously, he was very pleased and felt it was worth everthing he had endured.

    Godspeed to your son!

  25. SageMom says:

    Thankyou dear Nan!
    My son will have not only a scar down his back but he has a very, very long scar down his chest from his open heart surgery. I want him to sport them proudly. He has earned them just like medals of honor!! I am sure he will be very pleased after his surgery also! You know, when the doctors came in to tell me of his scoliosis and it’s severe turn, they told me that his curve was toward the left. I guess in males, that is rare. It usually points to some other defect such as a fluid sack at the tail of the spine (much like spina bifida) or the fact that he was born with only one kidney. After all the tests were run, thankfully there was no fluid sack at the tail of his spine, nor was there just one kidney. I let them know that he, in fact, was a rare find though and how lucky that he was given to me! Again thankyou for the words of encouragement. I am now in the proccess of watching a spinal surgery on http://www.espine.com. Truly amazing what all I have learned from you fine folk today. I think I will rest after this last video though. I overloaded myself today. I think I shall just start reading the comments once more on this article. I am going to read them all aloud to my son. He thanks all of you too!!

  26. Redrelaxed says:

    Always among the last to arrive at the party, but I have lots of stamina, and I make a hellova barbecue sauce!

    Since the post is What Ails You, I will share some of my story about my eldest son that may give you encouragement; who by the way is responsible for EVERY gray hair on my head SageMom.

    I’ll call him No. 1 because he is, and now a grown man of nearly 33. No. At 24, he had acquired a sponsorship with Burton in Whistler as professional snowboarder where he also worked as a bouncer when he wasn’t on the slopes. He’s big, tough and athletic, also dyslexic.

    In the early fall of that 24th year he was home here with the familly (me and his younger brother and sister) and decided to go dirt biking with a friend. Well, to make a really long story short, he overshot the hill climb landing on his two stroke and plummeted 60 feet into a gravel pit. Famous last words of a redneck “Hey watch this!” Both of his feet and ankles were smashed to smitherins and broken completely off his legs. When I arrived at emergency, although pumped full of morphine he was literally floating off the gurney in pain and his feet were swollen, black and hanging off to side. I nearly fainted, but that wouldn’t have been very productive.

    You see he had taken the impact with both feet after getting himself upright as his fell, throwing the bike out from under him. He was badly broken, but worse and all his dreams too. That night after what can only be described as my worst nightmare, he was transported in an ambulance to Kamloops where they put him back together. In two years he had four operations on his right foot and three on the left. Six months in a wheelchair, and then crutches for several months thereafter.

    He sure can`t run anymore, nor does he snowboard, but that man can hit a golf ball straight as an arrow 300 yards in his bare feet. He never complained once during this ordeal, and I can tell you he has made the most of his limitations. No 1 is a diamond driller and works 2 miles unground sometimes, cuz he`s just crazy, and makes a very good living. I don`t worry about him as much anymore, but I understand exactly how you feel.

    I guess the reason I wanted to share is that no matter what happens to us, it`s what we do with what happens to us that counts. Your son sounds like an amazingly strong willed young man who with a positive attitude will get through whatever obstacles he faces. Remember what Winston Churchill said, “If you`re going through hell, keep going“.

    Huggz to you and your son SageMom

  27. cali patti says:

    I will not go to any half way house. I will stay & eat … the more for me.

  28. SageMom says:

    Oh RED! I am sure to be strong in the coming weeks! I don’t know how we mothers do it! Thankyou for sharing and yes, I plan on passing right thru hell to the nearest barbecue pit!!! I will see you all there! Thankyou once again!!!!

  29. SageMom says:

    lol! Cali Patti……………………and make room for me! I am built small with a HUGE appetite!!!!♥

  30. Newbie says:

    Redrelaxed, you brought tears to my eyes and I don’t cry. The words explaining your going into the hospital and seeing your sons feet, whoa, my heart. Thank you for fully explaining his recovery and how he is in life today.

  31. cali patti says:

    SageMom, sending calmness your way. Surgery for this type of spinal fusion has been around for some time. I am thinking the surgery would be better than doing nothing.

    Now to the eating, love bar-b-que, if your small then you best be quick. Food is a serious business. I have manners but at times those manners can be forgotten. Just saying this could be a situation where it comes down to each woman for themselves.

  32. cali patti says:

    ps, why would any eating woman want a half way house over food?
    Something is wrong here …
    sorry, I couldn’t help myself.

  33. margaret says:

    Dear Sagemom, reading your sons story brought back I memory I had not thought about in years. I got married 2 months before I turned 18. I was one of those brillant people. Right?? All my family lived 400 miles away, but I got so blessed with the greatest neighbors a person could have. Next to my mother, Josephine was the most important woman in my life.She had three boys and I eventually had a girl and boy, all of the kids in neighborhood were like brother and sister. Charlton was Jo’s oldest son ,oldest of all the kids but the sweetest most dear person .He had your sons spinal problems. At that time very few places existed for his needs. His mother found a really gooddoctor and she packed a little bag and spent months away from her home and family with this child, After he was well enough to come home in the body cast, all of the kids , now teenagers, took such good care of him. Today this man is still the sweetest person on earth. Charlton was blessed to be a mathematical whiz. He now has 2 children of his own and is president of our local credit union. This was years ago and I know there simpler ways now, but you know God knew how to take care of Charlton years ago and he will take care of your son.. It has been along time since I have thought about this and I feel better thinking about those good days. My mom and Jo are both with God now , but I was blessed with tem for a while. I pray you let Gods strength hold you and your son up. Thank you for letting me remember this.

  34. Frankie says:

    Sage Mom,
    That’s very sweet of you to think of someone else when you have plenty on your own plate. My husband is doing very well at the moment. His doctors do tests regularly to keep on top of the cancers. Both types have returned after initial surgery so that is why he is watched closely. He may have more surgery in the fall but it is not cancer, just a result of it. We have both always had a positive attitude and it never occurs to us that it won’t work out the way it is supposed to. Faith, prayer and the love of good friends including blog friends can make a world of difference. I will easily remember your sons surgery date because it is my son’s birthday. I will be praying that day for God to guide your son’s surgeon’s hands and for everything to be as it should. I will be sending you hugs that day as I am right now. Take care of yourself so you can be strong for your son.

  35. Laurali says:

    Sage Mom not that long ago my daughter had medical “drama” (as she likes to call it). All the prayers from friends made me feel better. Just know that I will be thinking of you and praying for a speedy recovery for your precious “baby.” What is the old saying, what does not kill us will make us stronger?.! I am convinced my daughters are after my life insurance. 🙂

  36. nika says:

    Sage Mom – My brother had back surgery 30 or so years ago and the rod was placed in his back. He was the same age as your son and got along fine. The advancements are much further along now so I feel the recovery will be much faster. I remember they had a pond in the back of the hospital and they said you could go home when you walked around the pond. It was great seeing each and every back and heart surgery giving it a try each day. I will pray for a safe and speedy recovery for your son.

  37. SageMom says:

    I am so glad he plays golf with a passion! Talking about a young man with determination! Talking about a Mom with determination!! I wanted to let you know, each time I read your comments, I picture a lovely lady with beautiful strawberry red hair. My father had the most beautiful red hair! Now you are telling me you have gray hair like mine! Those darn beautiful boys! giving us this gray hair!!! Oh yeah…….you weren’t last at my party by the way! You were just fashionably late! And I am ready for that grand barbie-Q sauce!!!

  38. SageMom says:

    Thankyou and yes, we shall be stronger! Did I mention I have a girl too? lol! She has made me very strong!!! lol She also had her own set of medical issues. She is one of the most beautiful and intelligent young lady’s! She is also female. Right there should explain any more gray hairs on my head. My daughter developed a tumor and had the tumor and lymph nodes removed at a wonderful hospital in Chicago. Loyola cancer center is and was a wonderful hospital and she pulled through quite well. She is now a nursing student and is considering being an anesthesiologist. She certainly has it in her to be whatever she would like to be! I am proud of her for that.

  39. SageMom says:

    Nika, Thankyou so much for your prayers and sharing about your brothers surgery. Do you know just how encouraging it has been today to read of everyone’s trials in life and all the information you have all shared with me? This has been a great day indeed! My husband arrived home and I got a chance to share with him all this wonderful information and prayers and encouragement. I don’t think anything could discourage me at this point! Tell me, your brother does fine at this point? I have read that some people who have had the surgery have had their rods break? It looks to be a rare thing though and after watching many of the videos today, I see the advancements have really made this occurance a rare one. The pond by the hospital? I can picture my son running with all his might, right around that pond and back, to get back home and start his new life. What a grat thought to go to sleep to tonight/Thankyou for that!

  40. SageMom says:

    Your memory, what a lovely memory that you just shared with me! It’s something these kids born with disabilities. They see something we don’t! They are the sweetest, kindest of hearts. Charlton is such a good name. I am thinking. after reading your description of Charlton, I would be able to see something special in Charltons eyes and in his voice. Just like my son! I thankyou for your words of encouragement and yes, it seems a higher pwer has led my son patiently, through so many rough times. My son has led me through these same rough spots, quietly, patiently, lovingly. I am thinking Charlton and his Mother walked the same path. How lucky we have been! Thanks again Margaret!

  41. SageMom says:

    Frankie, One very large hug is coming your way from me to you!! Life is good! I promise to keep all of my blog friends up to date on my sons surgery and speedy recovery. I can’t really express well enough how much this all means to me. My blogfriends have put my mind at ease and I feel calm for the first night in quite some time. By the way, my son’s name is Dylan. I will be thinking of you and your husband and son as I await my son’s surgery. On your son’s birthday? You see, I really do believe that things happen for reasons. I think the date of his surgery is for a reason also. I was lucky to hear your story and I know all good things will happen for me on your son’s birthday. What a wonderful thought that is!!!! Thankyou very much Frankie!♥♥

  42. SageMom says:

    Cali Patti.
    I am around 115 dripping wet but can put down a rack of ribs in seconds!!! It shall be every woman for herself and I would like to add, watch your fingers when your grabbin for those ribs!!!! Ya never know what I can do when I’m eatin! I tell ya.you’ve got some competition here at the barbie-q half way house!!!!

  43. Vicky says:

    SageMom – You and your son have a lot of positive energy coming your way, and the benefit of the skill and knownledge of individuals who were blessed with the desire and intelligence to change lives through medicine. We will all continue to pray for your son and will be here as a support for you. I too know what a wonderful group of people there are here.

    Newbie – God loves a cheerful sinner. 🙂 Jon and I have been very well behaved lately. It must be Nan’s positive influence. Just thank your lucky stars that Nurse Rachett hasn’t paid us all a visit during these stressful times. However, if she were to drop in I am certain she would want SageMom to know that her son will come through his surgery with flying colors. And would want her to remember that laughter is a strong medicine.

  44. cali patti says:

    SageMom … bring it on. Ribs, hands down, you lose. You might lose a finger or two.
    Honestly, so you are 115 lbs, lol. I could sit on you and still eat.
    [content transferred to Russ, Alternate Juror…]

    Ms Pattie… off topic?? You remind me of Little Iodine. ~J


  45. Vicky says:

    Well folks, funny you should mention BBQ…I have 57staff members and 160 kiddos coming over to my house tomorrow for a BBQ, so I am heading off to bed. I’m feeling a bit uneasy as rain is in the forecast, so they might all be indoors. Pray for sunshine in NE Kansas until 2:00 pm. 🙂

  46. SageMom, I am so glad to see that this thread really took off. It doesn’t surprise me because we have some wonderful, caring people who participate here. I want to let you know that I have the Great Healer, above, on speed dial. He has carried me through some very difficult times.

    In spite of contracting polio at age 14, I have had a full rich life. Not rich in the sense of money, but rich in non material things that money cannot buy, love and good friends and for the most part, good health. I married at age 18 to a wonderful man who did not see my disability, but me. We had 30 years together until he passed from diabetis and it’s complications. I was blessed with 3 daughters, all natural childbirth.

    I lost my oldest daughter in 2007. Kim had a brain aneurysm that ruptured. They operated and tried to save her but she had a massive stroke post op and didn’t make it. Her organs were donated so five people in Canada have a better quality of life. My second daughter had open heart surgery at age 5 to correct a hole in the upper chambers of her heart. She is married and blessed me with a granddaughter. My youngest daughter is married and lives in Illinois. She was diagnosed with Essential Thrombocytosis just over ten years ago. ET is when the bone marrow makes too many platelets ( the cells that clot your blood). Bobbie (her nickname) is on a chemo drug in pill form which helps to suppress the bone marrow from producing too many platelets. ET can be progressive so it is just a wait and watch. If the disease starts to progress, she can have her own stem cells harvested and frozen, in case she needs a bone marrow transplant. This is much better than trying to find a matched donor. Bobbie holds down a high profile job and travels all over the states, Canada and on a rare occasion, China.

    Normally, I do not divulge too much about myself because of a select few who tend to bully in the blogosphere. One was praying I would be dead before I ever learned the verdict in the trial. I believe she will go back to her Ouija board and put her Tarot cards away. Nuff said in that respect.

    They say that people come into our lives for a reason. Some only stay a short while but make a big impact. If we never get to know the bad, we will not recognize the good. Nite nite and God Bless all.

  47. Frankie says:

    Sage Mom, I love the name Dylan. I didn’t want to ask because of privacy. Now I can direct my thoughts and prayers more accurately. I know that sounds weird. LOL. My son will be 36 years but I had him when I was 10 so I’m still young. Just kidding. I was 27. My oldest grandson will be 18 Aug. 25th. Egads I’m old but in my mind I’m younger, much younger!
    Sometimes we all probably forget that everybody has a story. Everybody has trials and tribulations. We are not alone. After reading all the wonderful comments on here I feel so much better than yesterday after the unbelievable verdict. Now I can go to bed. Nite, Nite to All.

  48. Frankie says:

    P.S. I forgot to tell Vicky that I will pray for sunny skies for tomorrow in NE Kansas. Your wish is my command. A 160 kids? Wow! Have fun. Are you cooking BBQ? My invite must be late because of our stupid mail strike. Nite, Nite.

  49. Newbie says:

    I just got back from my “distraction”. If I didn’t have a doctors appointment for tomorrow, I’d crash Vickys cookout ! If it hamburgers and hot dogs, I’ll pester her about where the ribs are.

    As far as the verdict, I’m over it now. I figure things happen for a reason and sometimes we just don’t know what that reason is. We need to channel our energies on things we can do something about….like prayers for Sagemoms son, good thoughts for Frankie and her husband and crashing Vicky’s next cookout.
    Nite everyone. Sweet dreams to you all.

  50. conniefl says:

    Bless your heart SageMom. I copied this.. I think Erma Bombeck said it all:
    The Special Mother

    by Erma Bombeck
    Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures and a couple by habit.
    This year nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children. Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?
    Somehow I visualize God hovering over earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
    “Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint…give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity.”
    “Forrest, Marjorie; daughter. Patron saint, Cecelia.”
    “Rutledge, Carrie; twins. Patron saint, Matthew.”
    Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles, “Give her a handicapped child.”
    The angel is curious. “Why this one God? She’s so happy.”
    “Exactly,” smiles God, “Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.”
    “But has she patience?” asks the angel.
    “I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she’ll handle it.”
    “I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I’m going to give her has her own world. She has to make her live in her world and that’s not going to be easy.”
    “But, Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you.” God smiles, “No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect – she has just enough selfishness.” The angel gasps – “selfishness? is that a virtue?”
    God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a ‘spoken word'”. She will never consider a “step” ordinary. When her child says ‘Momma’ for the first time, she will be present at a miracle, and will know it!”
    “I will permit her to see clearly the things I see…ignorance, cruelty, prejudice….and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life, because she is doing My work as surely as if she is here by My side”.
    “And what about her Patron saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in mid-air.

    God smiles, “A mirror will suffice.”

  51. nan11 says:

    conniefl: What a beautiful, beautiful read that was. Thank you so much for sharing it.

  52. SageMom says:

    Laurali, What was your daughter’s medical drama? If you don’t mind me asking. No matter what, I am surely hoping everything went well!

  53. SageMom says:

    And so our lives have intertwined even without meeting. Yes, everything happens for some reason and our paths were destined to meet, even if by internet. Your daughter you lost………..my heart aches and I can only guess that she was placed in your loving hands for a reason. That reason being because you are you and you seem so very special to me. I am sure God felt the same. Your daughter with the Atrial septal defect, another huge miracle you were able to experience! And your daughter in Illinois with Essential Thrombocytosis…..the strength you have passed on to them! Let’s me hope that my own strength was enough to pass on to my son. My daughter too……She is an acceptional young lady!
    Your strength from childhood on. I can only think that God does place special souls in our hands for a reason also. Thankyou Dear Snoopy for writing this thread for me and my son. You. again, have touched a special soul!

  54. SageMom says:

    I shall print this and carry it with me wherever I go. When I need a little encouragement? I will take it out and quietly read. What a gift this is! Thankyou from me and my son.♥♥

  55. SageMom says:

    CaliPatti!!! lol! Bring it on! I got your rack of ribs and I’ll see you one whole roast pig!!!! I may be small but I’m packed with dy-NO-mite!!!! Love me some bar-bee-q!!! Let us all hope for Vicky’s picnic to have went oh so well and if there are left overs??? VICKI??? Mail to SageMom!

  56. cali patti says:

    Finally a fitting nickname, Littl’ Iodine. Thank You! Quite a compliment. I love love love being a likable brat. A brat that irrates her family (& others) in a nice way. Thats me….thanks again.

  57. SageMom says:

    I get so dissappointed in myself and my words. I so want to write to you in a beautiful and eloquent way but it seems I fail every time. Iwanted to tell you about a young lady of the tender age 18 who lives with my family. She is my sons best friend. She was with me when we went to donate blood for my son’s surgery and she too donated just in case there was a match and or if someone else needed help. Her mother died when she was a tiny girl. Her mother was such a youn g age at her death. Ashley’s mother died of a brain aneurysm very quick. Very sudden. I am speechless as to how our lives have so many paths that do cross. Both you and my son’s friend, Ashley are such an inspiration. I surely look at life as one of the greatest gifts we have been given and I try not to waste a day of it.To be rich with love and good friends? Life has been good to the both of us!! So very good.Your wonderful husband and best friend………I am hoping he is in heaven chatting it up with my father.My father died from diabetes and it’s complications also.I can only hope that they are having a nice scoop of ice cream. My father loved ice cream.

  58. cali patti says:

    Room..Ladies. I am better at humor (or try to be) than I am sharing careing. I do care and understand however it is difficult to find the right words, so I joke.

    My new name Little Iodine!

    Miss Patti, I have ordered a big cage and you are going in it! ~J

  59. SageMom, your words are very eloquent and much appreciated. BTW, Essential Thrombocytosis is a very rare blood condition. Would you believe that one of the people who contributes here has a daughter-in-law who was recently diagnosed with the same condition? Since she told me about it in a Password Protected thread, I will leave it up to her if she wishes to discuss it here. The chances of two people meeting on the internet who both have relatives with ET are millions to one.

  60. SageMom says:

    You see? It is not just coincidence! Each and every ONE of us that have come here to your most wonderful site were meant to be exactly where we are. I feel so very privileged to be a part of this.
    p.s. Essential Thrombocytosis is such a fierce looking couple of words! Your daughter kicks it’s butt every day! I love strong women. The world is lucky to have us!!

  61. Holly Sage says:

    Miss CaliPatti? What do you mean, you arent good at the sharing caring? I think to get you off to a good start.you shall share all your bar-b-q with us when we make a promise to get together! Yes……….I think you should serve us our baby back ribs! That would be such an honor!!!! See how caring you will be?? I love my baby back baby back baby back….ribs!!!!! Love ya li’l Iodine!!!

  62. Vicky says:

    J- It was indeed quite something when we discovered that both of us had a family member with ET. My DIL is doing remarkably well, she had a minor setback earlier in the spring, but her chemotherapy seems to be keeping things in check. She will be participating in a study beginning in the fall. They are quite interested in following her due to her age and the genetic factors involved.

  63. cali patti says:

    Holly Sage, thanks for the kind words. You mentioned sharing bar-b- cue? Now why would I share ribs?
    Going off to ponder if your kind words were just way to get to my ribs. Who ever said I was doing the cooking? Where did the half way house go?
    This entire subject has become backwards and sideways.

    Little Iodine (me) has spoken and I will never be put into a cage.
    ~~ sticking my tongue out ~~

  64. Holly Sage says:

    Oh yes you will I-O-DINE!!!! We shall let Snoopy put you in a special cage. We will call it a……..RIB-CAGE!!!! Oh dear! I am ever so cheesy, arent I?

  65. cali patti says:

    OMG, YOU Holly Sage are very good! I have to it give you for the best phrasing I’ve read in a time.
    Of course doesn’t mean a thing, Snoopy likes me. ta da
    Im off to my neighbors

  66. Redrelaxed says:

    Rib cage!? Bawhahahaha…*insert Larry the Cable Guy’s voice ~ “Now that right there was funny.”

  67. SageMom says:

    I wanted to post here and let you know that my son Dylan is home and we are doing much much better! He is actually back to eating! We have a way to go but my goodness how straight his back is and how lucky we are!!! Life is good!!!

  68. SageMom says:

    A belated Happy Birthday to your son!! What a good day August 11th was!!!!

  69. Newbie says:

    Sagemom, so good to hear things are good !!!!!

  70. SageMom~~thanks so much for popping in to update us. Those baby steps will turn into giant steps. Hugs for you and Dylan. xoxo

  71. Karen C. says:

    SageMom- how utterly wonderful he’s back home! There’s no place like…etc., etc.. I can hardly stand to be away from mine for longer than an hour and he’s blessed (thus far) with good health. He was a month early and had to bake like a potato the first three days and I think I just get anxious knowing all the things that can happen. So happy for you both!

  72. nan11 says:

    SageMom: Thank you for sharing the wonderful news of Dylan’s progress with us.

    Being home will really help, I think. He is blessed to have you for his mom, (but something tells me he knows that.) 😉

  73. Frankie says:

    Sage Mom, I am so glad to hear from you. You must have been reading my mind. I was starting to think that things where not going well. I have always had a problem with the saying ” no news is good news”. Dylan’s recovery is sure to go along better in the comfort of his home under the care of his loving family. Hugs to Dylan, you and family.

    Thank you for my birthday wishes. Today is our 44th Anniversary. I can hardly believe it. We have several friends that got married around the same time and they are still together too. Some are not but the new spouse is added to the group and when we have our annual reunion old and new partners my show up. These are the people that we hung out with as teenagers and we still stay in contact.with each other. It’s very nice to have friends.

  74. SageMom says:

    Good evening!!!!
    Checking in tonight to let you all know how Dyaln is progressing and how Sagemom is still smiling!!! Dylan is now off of all pain meds and the two of us walk the block once a day! Our trips can’t be too long but we are now taking trips and that is a good thing! Oh how I long to post a phot or video of the great progress he has made and what a success his surgery was!! He is back to eating everything he can reach and his humor has returned times 20! I am now planning our trip back to the surgeons offices to show them what a fine job they have done. I read here each night and am anxious to get back into the swing of things. So much is bothering me lately! The poor little man who was not given water and tortured by the very people who were entrusted with his well being. I cried long and hard over that and decided to try and get it out of my mind only to find out that the WM3 were released from prison. I have no doubt in my mind that they were right where they belonged and once again, in walks the celebrity and poof…….they are all out of prison, free to roam and commit more horrifying crimes. MOO of course, but I shiver to think they are out and among us.
    I will stop there. I would rather tell you all how great things are going and how great life can be!!! I will not take advantage of another moment of my life. I am so lucky and so happy to be living. I am back and it will be great chatting with all of you fine people!! ♥♥

  75. SageMom ~ ~what a treat to hear from you and that Dylan is doing so well. I always enjoy reading your comments as you are so upbeat and thankful for even the small things in life. I wish more people were just like you who take each day and treasure every second. I can tell by my stat counter when you come for a visit even if you do not leave a comment. *wink

    What did you mean the WM3 were released from prison? Did you mean the parents of the twin boy who they tortured for five days by withholding water from him and made the poor child sit in the window with the hot sun baking him? My gosh, I hope they are still locked up. I could not understand what you meant by the WM3. My brain goes to sleep once in awhile. LOL

  76. nan11 says:

    SageMom: Thanks for the update and for sharing your ‘good news’ with us. It makes me feel like cheering, too.

    Wow! Less than a month and he is out walking. How wonderful is that!

    I’m sure I’ve said this before, but he is blessed to have you for a mom. I have no doubt that the surgeons did a spectacular job; but I think the speedy recovery has a lot to do with your tender, devoted care.

    Big hugs to you both. 🙂


  77. SageMom says:

    Hi snoop and nan11! And all you mainstream pals, So happy to be here tonight! Dylan had a visit today to his dr.s, guess what? He was told he was the best patient they have ever had! I believe them! He really did put forth all effort to get to where he is right now! Two more months and they might even let him drive! I am proud as a peacock! I really had to let you know tonight! I knew you would be proud like me! He really is the best son ever and nan? Thank you…..I love the thought that I am an important part of my sons recovery! I was told today that my sons heart and spine defects were both something he was born with. We spent a bit of time talking about that and genetics. I would have been even more interested if it weren’t my son. On the way home he asked me if we could find out if when he had children of his own someday, would they suffer the same troubles as he did! He told me it was best to know if this was genetic, so he wouldn’t be blindsided like his mom and dad were. I just sat there. How do you tell someone how very important they are to you and how you felt nothing but love for them! I thought about the day he was born. When they told me they didn’t think he was going to make it, i knew, I just knew he was going to make it and be something very special! He has been my life and my strength. I was never blindsided. I do believe in love at first sight! He will have his own children someday and he will know all about love at first sight. How lucky his children will be! Snoopy”……….I almost forgot. The wm3? West Memphis 3 Damien Echols, Jason Baldwin and Jesse miskelley. They murdered 3 little boys mutilated and tortured them. Peter jackson, Johnny Depp, and eddy Vedder, among other celebrities helped to financially back their defense. They were let out of prison,.damien Echols was on death row. They were offered the Alford plea. I am still trying to read as much as I can and from my take on the case, the Alford plea seems to be criminal in itself. I believe from the confessions of Jesse Miskelley, these three men committed the crimes. Another horrible story with an even more horrible ending. Who will be the voice of the three little boys murdered? I fear Damien Echols will continue to kill. He seems quite schizophrenic to me. Jason Baldwin I fear even more. I will continue to read more and more until I feel I read enough. It is one of the cases that makes me hide under the covers. I am so disheartened to think they are walking free like CA. If you get a chance, read up on it. My only problem is all of the evidence that was not used in the trial not to mention the many confessions by two of them. They were spot on about too many things only the killers would know. Not only that…ten and a half million dollars contributed to the defense and they could not prove these three didn’t do it? No way! On a different note……..so happy to be here with you fine friends!

  78. SageMom says:

    Tottered? definitely not what it was intended to be. I meant tortured. My husband surprised me with an Ipad 2 today. It is wonderful. I can now go to Mainstream fair and get online no matter where my life might take me. The only thing…. sometimes it changes my intended wording into something like “tottered” Definitely not what it was meant to be!

    all fixed~S

  79. SageMom~~I agree with Nan11, you have been an asset to your son. Some of you rubbed off on him and that is why he is such a strong and wonderful boy. I shudder to think of what would happen to a boy like Dylan, if he had a mother who didn’t support him and give him care. I know you are thankful for all the good things that come your way and the One above knows that too and watches over your family.

  80. Frankie says:

    SageMom, I’m happy to hear that Dylan is recovering and the surgery result is so good. . ,

  81. SageMom says:

    Thank you to all! I want to think my son and I encourage each other. Our lives have been filled with challenges and I know they were already in our path so we just went for it with a positive approach. I truly am thankful for all that I have. Snoopy….did you remember the West Memphis 3? And what is your take on it? After reading the 500 pages, and various other sites, I still think they were guilty. I surely would welcome anything that shows me they should have been released. And the Alford plea seems a lot like an !! ‘AS seen on TV’ kind of plea!

  82. nan11 says:

    Wow, SageMom. I’m so glad to hear how pleased even the doctor’s are with Dylan’s progress. That means a lot coming from them.

    The young man that I knew who had the ‘spinal’ problem was from a family of five, and his brothers and sisters were all okay. I believe he was the oldest child. Now, it’s possible that your son’s children could be in a higher risk category; but I’d be willing to bet it wouldn’t be 100%.

    The first born child (a son) of one of my relatives had Down’s syndrome, and the doctor’s explained that the couple should have no more children because the probability of them having the same disease was about 99%. Well, about eight years later they did have another baby–a little girl this time–and she was and is perfect.

    So you just never know. I hope someday that if your son and his (future) wife understand the risks and agree to try, that they have a perfect, perfect baby,

    FYI: You know way more about the ‘West Memphis three’ than I do, but I have a link that I’m going to add on the other thread.

  83. SageMom says:

    I thought I would write here to let you know what has been happening with my son and myself lately. I guess I am writing more for therapy for myself. It feels good to type everything out and have someone listen. My son has had quite a setback. He just came home from the hospital once again and boy oh boy are the two of us glad to be home. Quite a while back we alerted his surgeon that his incision down his spine was not quite healing. He had an infection everywhere a stich was placed. Apparently, the stiches were not dissolving and caused his system to fight back. He was then prescribed a super antibiotic. He took the antibiotic as prescribed and two days after he finished the medicine he started to become extremely ill, losing weight rapidly and had an intolerable pain on his right side. I took him to our regular family doctor and he was then diagnosed with appendicits. We were sent right to the hospital and surgery was planned for later on in the afternoon after he received a few more tests. We met the surgeon that would be performing the appendectomy who assured us it would be a cake walk. Laproscopic surgery is pretty amazing. Right before the surgery, the tests came back from the scan and the two doctors were surprised to find out it was not his appendix but his colon. The super antibiotic completely wiped out the good bacteria in his system and caused the bad bacteria to form a large army and attack my sons system. He developed c-diff or clostridium difficile. A very serious case of it too. He became quite ill and his colon swelled terribly along with his lymph nodes. Talking about frightening! I am now happy to report that we are once again at our happy home resting. He is on a treatment program but is highly infectious right now and I have him downstairs away from the rest of the family. I am tired now Snoopy and I just want to rest and my son is so thin at this point he doesn’t look too healthy. We were so proud to have gotten him to a wolluping 120 pounds before this surgery and now he is more like 110-112. In two weeks we are scheduled for a colonoscopy for him but I think they need to slow down. I am very sure, after reading, it was the Keflex that caused this war. They are concerned because of his battle with necrotizing enturocolitis when he was a baby. I really think they need to quit with everything. We are both tired.
    I try to sneak online and check in now and again and I think positively every day that Dave will have the best of reports for everyone when he gets back from the doctors Monday. I also know that my son will pull through but today I just want to complain a little. Thankyou for having this site where I can sneak in and complain. It felt good to get it off my chest again.
    I hope you and all of the gang are well. I still love reading here and I still want to share a recipe or two with everyone. Have you ever had pineapple pie? Not pineapple cream but a regular pineapple pie? My husbands Grandmother came to this country from Poland and with it she brought the recipe. I love it so and want to share it with the rest of you. Soon, I promise!!!

  84. Sage Mom~ ~ OMG, you and Dylan have been through more than your share. You both have such a strong faith and I know you will overcome this setback. All I can send you is a tender hug and will continue to pray for Dylan and your family.

  85. nan11 says:

    SageMom: Your pineapple pie sounds wonderful–but I’m shocked to hear of Dylan’s ordeal. (And yours.)

    After all he went through with his spinal surgery, it just doesn’t seem fair. I have heard tell of antibiotics going too far like that.

    I’m so thankful that he seems better, now. Of course, you must be exhausted. You have certainly earned the right.

    I’m going to start a prayer vigil for Dylan’s continued healing and for a ‘little’ weight gain. And for you to get some well deserved rest. 😉

    (Thank you for sharing this with us.)

  86. SageMom says:

    Snoopy and Nan,
    I reached right out there for my big hug from Snoopy and Nan, I thank you for the prayers. I remember when I first decided to comment on Dave’s site and Snoopy said to me, “Faith can move Mountains”. I remind myself of that every day and I even snuck it Dave’s way. I want to thank you two for allowing me to come here and Snoopy gave me and my son our very own little section here just fit for a post from us.
    We shall rest this next few days and then I promise…………..Pineapple pie time. Nan….it is most wonderful!!! Hugs back at the both of you from me and my son!!♥♥♥

  87. God Bless You and Dylan, Sage Mom. Dave gets the results of his lung biopsy on Monday. We are praying for him too.

  88. nan11 says:

    SageMom: Awww, I have to wipe a tear away now. Bless you, my dear. (And Dylan, and Mr. SageMom.) Ƹ̴Ӂ̴Ʒ


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